Creating your own waterpark;with sprinklers is a great way to enjoy the afternoon in a hot day in Phoenix. We had a basket ball court that was largely unused due to the extreme heat. We hooked up sprinklers and passed out water guns and just had the most fun for an hour. Backyards sometimes get muddy. These kids did not have a play-yard just the court. Fun is using what you have access to in a new and creative way.
- It makes you feel good
- It makes you laugh out loud.
- It really doesn’t cost that much. (It won’t break you
- You look forward to doing it again.
- It seems to be created from a very happy place
- It stimulates creativity and oneness
- It allows someone to connect with others in a really good way.
- Once you experience it, it gets easier to find it again.
- It often draws on our empathy and compassion for others.
- It seems to celebrate the good parts of being human.
- It seems to encourage good sportsmanship and fair play.
- It also seems to celebrate nature and beauty, like a picnic in spring.
- It is like a cork floating to the top, it just seems to want to surface.
- Like attracts like. If someone tells a joke and tosses a ball to the next joke teller, pretty soon it become infectious. Everyone is laughing.
- For sand tray therapy groups: Ask members to recall a fun moment and find something in the miniature to represent that.
- Fun does not require a victim. It is not real fun if someone else is made to feel bad or less than in the process. So slap stick comedy might not qualify. Some comedians do it so well that we almost have to laugh.
- Fun is bubbly but it does not require any substances. Not really.
- In fact fun seems to only require a permission slip and some space. It is like leaving the gate open and inviting fun to show up.
- What discourages fun? Fun has contrast for sure and perhaps we need to experience that as well sometimes.
- Right off the bat, death of a loved one. Huge loss is often hard to manage and have fun too. Loss of job or relationship, anything in fact that counts as a loss. Even when we try and celebrate someone’s life at a funeral and tell jokes, it often is punctuated by the pain of saying good bye.
- Family dysfunction can be a real deal breaker for fun. If a family is arguing and not being kind to each other, fun is scarce.
- Lack of structure and education can be a barrier to fun. Friday night sparks off the week end with the promise of fun. Ether school is over or a work week is over. If someone is a couch potato without goals or structure, fun is less find-able. Ever been out of work for a while? Not fun. Which also leads to income. I think having income from somewhere reliable is needed for a healthy heaping of fun.
- Education is also vital to having fun. It is hard to be creative and communicate without the shared media and basic knowledge of others. There are many kids of education. Some non formal kinds include sewing circles, nature walks that identify healing herbs, dance classes and learning to sing at church. Not all learning is in a class room. Fun and education go hand and hand more often than we think.
- Absence of community and apathy can foster bad connection and lack of fun. I remember watching “Christmas with the Kranks” and it is obvious that the Kranks have walled themselves off from their neighborhood. They manage to reconcile with neighbors, at the end. Being part of a community is often necessary for real fun to happen.
- And avoid serious injury or being really sick. Those are definitely not fun.
This is a really good video on not being so serious. That is a major part of our culture and our problems.