Monday, September 5, 2016
Bipolar Bears Skating with Abraham Hicks
Often times people who are experiencing depression, mania, and a disconnection from reality are not fully enjoying the contrast. Contrast as Esther Hicks explains, has everything to do with living life and deciding what feels right and what is enjoyable. Often people must experience an uncomfortable or “bad” experience to be clear about what they do want. The contrast is experiencing a rainy day so you can experience a sunny day. Some people clearly are not enjoying it if they are pressed into situations that do not allow them to express who they really are. Abraham suggests that bipolar symptoms are created by not allowing a strong energy or path to unfold. Sometimes there is such a strong personality parent or caretaker, that the child cannot express or be their authentic self. Many Bipolar people experience mood episodes that include delusional happenings like people with Schizophrenia diagnosis often experience. Many bipolar diagnosed people are very intuitive and psychic, however, they have not learned to balance their current life with the impressions they are receiving from others. Since they are often told that it is wrong to be psychic and have those awesome intuitive visions, they feel even more devalued and broken. They develop more stigma that says there is something wrong with me.
Abraham Hicks calls bipolar diagnosed people: Those who have strong wanters disease. They focus on what they want in a very intense way. They are often very creative people with strong intentions. When you really know what you don’t want then you really know what you do want. She has said this: the person labeled bipolar was born into a challenge and thus hit the ground running. They often experience a current of negative emotion due to the fact that they really know what they desire but cannot line up with it. Abe says: "once you have tasted the sweetness of who you really are, you can’t go back to being satisfied without that." Becoming self-actualized is paramount to the person with this diagnosis.
As far as gaining some control over the see saw of moods, Abe suggests the following mantra or affirmation:
I am a powerful wanter, I plummet when I am not in alignment. Some people do not have the strong wanting or desiring as much as I (diagnosis of bipolar disorder). Powerful Wanting Creates Powerful Joy. I can focus myself into feeling better.
When you are feeling good then go with it. Milk it. Happiness is the goal.
They experience moving energy. Bipolar people can jump from one extreme to another…joy to despair…due to the power of focus. They have repeatedly practiced extreme focus. When you are focusing in an uncomfortable way, remember how powerful of a focuser you are, you can stop it as well. When you feel negative emotion it is rarely what someone else is doing. You have the ability to observe what you wish to observe or focus on things that are pleasing to you instead of things that drag you down.
From listening to hundreds of Abraham Hicks material, some purchased and some on You Tube, I have a basic theory for the causation of the uncomfortable symptoms that have been tagged mental illness. Very little of it stems from genetics except that we are all capable of experiencing some of the symptoms that are more exaggerated for those suffering with “mental illness.” Instead of just being down in the dumps, or dissatisfied some people become chronically depressed. Instead of just being apprehensive, some people experience chronic anxiety and panic attacks. Instead of just being cautious about others some mistrust is developed into huge fantasies that of paranoia.
Abraham Hicks has an emotional scale that is so helpful. It is helpful to realize that we are all on the emotional scale, somewhere. I find it helps identify the uncomfortable to nightmarish range of the scale in order to understand it and turn things around.
Since the logic for many of these not good feelings is faulty, going down the rabbit hole to discover where they stem from will take you on the limbic loop to nowhere. Often there is no why except a faulty belief. When I studied the Cognitive Restructuring of Beck I was a bit disappointed. The reason it only works about half the time is the person must be ready to be restructured. That is why I support person-centered or Carl Roger’s orientation. The person must be calm and safe enough to peak through a new window. They can then re-direct their thinking and their life. It is up to the person to decide on a better more reasonable path for themselves. Many bipolar people have experienced trauma in early childhood as well as other injustices. Some bipolar diagnosed people feel suicidal and helpless. Split energy feels very terrible. Split energy is wanting to die because life has become painful, but part of their being does not wish to die. Abraham suggests making a decision to stay here and feel better knowing that tools exist that will help them climb out of depression (easily).
You can’t arm wrestle with bipolar bears. They have to see the path open before them. You can only love them unconditionally and support them in the way they wish to be supported. You cannot consequence or punish someone into alignment. That will never work. They do need to know that they are valued and celebrated. For those who love someone who is experiencing symptoms, Abe suggests that this loved one should find all the reasons. strengths and qualities to illuminate why they like their loved one. Point them forward by talking about the future and what they would like to have happen. Sooth them when they try and catastrophize, saying, “it probably will all work out in the end.” And sometimes, loved ones with problems don’t need caretakers to have all the answers to fix their problems. We can just be good listeners. In fact, that is often much better.
Try just doing things together if possible.
Things to do together are things like go to a drummer circle, karaoke, hikes, bike, swim, go hear music together, do hot yoga together, get a guitar and take lessons, volley a tennis ball back and forth non competitively, do something crafty, make crafts together. There are hundreds of things that allow togetherness without competition or judgement.
We took a hula dance class once. It was great fun! It is hard to remain depressed when doing the hula.
Referenced from the following Abraham/ Esther Hicks You Tube Videos.